Neda Haffari

Neda Haffari is a short story writer and an art Curator from Iran, residing in Kathmandu, Nepal since 2013. She was born in 1983 and holds a bachelor’s degree in computer engineering.

What makes you, you?”

This question has punctuated my life’s narrative, leaving indelible marks at crucial crossroads, shaping my identity, and propelling me through a rich tapestry of experiences. From the nascent stages of my literary endeavors to the raw confrontation with mortality, from cultural transience to gender dynamics, the quest to decipher the essence of self has been an ever-unfolding saga.

The exploration of identity began with my foray into the world of writing. As I dipped my pen into the inkwell of creativity, I found myself grappling with recurring motifs and themes that seemed to echo fragments of my own psyche. Each stroke of the pen, each word carefully crafted, was an act of self-discovery, a journey into the depths of my being.

But the journey didn’t end there. It expanded, morphing into a labyrinthine exploration of cultural identity as I traversed borders and boundaries, leaving the familiar confines of my homeland in Iran to embrace the unknown in Nepal. It was a leap of faith, a conscious decision to transcend the limitations of nationality and passport stamps, to defy the stereotypes and preconceptions that often accompany them.

Yet, even as I ventured into the unknown, I found myself confronted with the ubiquitous human tendency to categorize and label. As an Iranian abroad, I became acutely aware of the narrow boxes into which people sought to slot me, reducing my identity to a mere reflection of my nationality. It was a frustration born not only of external perceptions but also of the realization that I, too, was guilty of judging others based on superficial markers.

It was in this crucible of cultural collision that I began to question the very nature of identity itself. Was it merely a product of external labels and societal expectations, or was there something deeper, something more intrinsic that defined who I was? It was a question that followed me like a shadow, haunting me in moments of solitude and introspection.

The answer, it seemed, lay not in the external trappings of identity, but in the intricate web of experiences, beliefs, and values that comprised the essence of my being. It was in the stories I told, the books I read, and the philosophy I embraced that I found echoes of my true self, fragments of a larger mosaic waiting to be pieced together.

But even as I sought to unravel the mysteries of my own identity, I found myself confronted with the ephemeral nature of existence itself. It was a confrontation born not of philosophical ponderings, but of a stark confrontation with mortality, as I grappled with a diagnosis of stage four cancer.

Facing death head-on was a sobering experience, a reminder of the fragility of life and the impermanence of existence. And yet, in the midst of this existential crisis, I found a strange sense of clarity, a newfound appreciation for the fleeting beauty of the present moment.

It was in the crucible of suffering that I came to understand the true nature of resilience, the indomitable spirit that refuses to be crushed by the weight of adversity. And it was in the face of death that I discovered the true measure of my own humanity, the depth of my capacity for love, and the strength of my will to survive.

But if there is one lesson that I have learned on this journey of self-discovery, it is that identity is not a fixed point but a fluid continuum, a kaleidoscope of shifting perspectives and evolving selves. It is a journey of becoming, a process of constant reinvention and reimagining, as we navigate the labyrinthine corridors of existence.

And so, as I stand on the threshold of my 40s, I find myself confronted with the eternal question: What makes me, me? Is it the sum total of my experiences, the culmination of my triumphs and failures, or is it something more elusive, more ephemeral, that defies easy definition?

Perhaps the answer lies not in the destination but in the journey itself, in the act of self-discovery and self-creation that defines the essence of being human. For ultimately, what makes me, me is not a question to be answered but a mystery to be explored, a journey to be embraced with courage and curiosity, as we navigate the uncharted terrain of the self.

Bio:

Neda Haffari is a short story writer and an art Curator from Iran, residing in Kathmandu, Nepal since 2013. She was born in 1983 and holds a bachelor’s degree in computer engineering. Haffari is currently serving as the Director of Space A, an interdisciplinary art practice in Nepal, while also pursuing a master’s degree in curatorial studies at Kathmandu University Department of Art and Design. In her role as the director, she is responsible for overseeing the organization’s activities and fostering the integration of diverse art forms. Haffari’s passion for curating and managing art events is reflected in her extensive work experience. Since 2019, she has been actively involved in the Kathmandu International Artist in Residency program, where she hosts artists from different nations and coordinates presentations, exhibitions, musical concerts, and workshops. To help young Nepali artists, Haffari runs the Space A Fellowship, a residency fellowship for upcoming Nepali artists, that was started in 2020 and resumed in 2023.

She was selected in CISA 2023. Curatorial Intensive South Asia is an initiative of Khoj International Artists’ Association and Goethe-Institute For young curators from South Asia. As part of the program, Haffari curated an exhibition in December 2023 at IIC in New Delhi.

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